How to Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship

I’m not sure of the origin of this piece, but I was going though some old emails that I had saved and this was there. Upon reading it again, I looked back of some of the mistakes that I’ve made thoughout the course of various relationships. I’m sure that there is something there that we all can relate to. So I figured that I’d share it is a thought for the day.

How to Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship

1. Control everything and everyone

2. Never take the blame yourself; instead, make your partner wrong

3. Make it a habit to spend more money than you have

4. Win every fight, even the ones you couldn’t care less about

5. Keep score

6. Use threat often

7. Find your partner’s weak spot and use it against him/her.

8. When your partner tries to please you, find fault with their efforts

9. Hold fast to the belief: “If you loved me you would know what I want”

10. Demand your partner remain faithful but refuse to meet his or her sexual needs

11. Use silence as a weapon

12. Pretend that you don’t hear

13. When your partner tries to apologize, bring up more complaints

14. Refuse to give information

15. When you realize you haven’t given your partner some important info, insist that you did

16. Claim to be the only one interested in the relationship

17. Never ask for help

18. Confide only in friends

19. Take it personally when your partner wants time alone

20. Discount your partner’s physical complaints

21. Give advice where it isn’t welcome

22. Never pick up after yourself

23. Refuse to seek help for your depression

24. Refuse to talk

25. Focus on changing your partner

26. Focus all your needs on sex

27. Take all problems as further proof that the relationship will not work

28. Put your friends before your partner

29. Keep romantic gestures to a minimum

30. Focus on your partner’s faults and deny your own

31. Let days go by without a kind word or loving gesture

32. Practice verbal abuse

33. Do not listen to your partner’s ideas or suggestions

34. Ask your partner to share feelings and when s/he does, EXPLODE

35. Start conversations when your partner is busy, or better yet, exhausted

36. Let disagreements fester

37. Say what you think your partner wants to hear, then do as you please

9 thoughts on “How to Ruin A Perfectly Good Relationship”

  1. 3. Make it a habit to spend more money than you have
    Good point and it’s not just an issue exclusive to a person single.

    5. Keep score
    The eye for an eye mentality never works when in a relationship

    7. Find your partner’s weak spot and use it against him/her.
    Will immediately shut the door of open and honest communication.

    10. Demand your partner remain faithful but refuse to meet his or her sexual needs

    Enough said

    25. Focus on changing your partner
    Preach!!!

    31. Let days go by without a kind word or loving gesture
    So simple, yet commonly forgotten.

    37. Say what you think your partner wants to hear, then do as you please
    The absolute truth!

  2. This is a powerful list- in that its true. These things are so detrimental to relationships, and unfortunately, I’ve been guilty of some of them.

    The one that rings a bell the most with me is this:

    11. Use silence as a weapon

    This is a definitely a weapon with devastating consequences after its used.

    Thanks so much for posting this!

    Peace.

    ~UB

  3. It should be titled….WAYS TO LOSE A GOOD WOMAN…..naw just joking LOL……that can be applied to both. GOod list. But what happens if you don’t do any of these and your s/o still leaves?

  4. @ woman on the move – I see you took note of some that might’ve touched a few nerves

    @ urban butterfly – yeah, the silent thing is really a relationship killer in itself

    @ Organized Noise – aiiight… do that

    @ NegroPino – if the s/o still leaves then I suppose the relationship just wasn’t that significant and things weren’t meant to be

  5. This was well put together and much so needed…some of these things are so simple yet we often forget about them or just ignore the fact that we do these things ourselves…in order for something to really work, we MUST first look at ourselves and do something about our OWN issues and faults…and STOP blaiming other folks…

    GREAT post G!

  6. Thanks for the birthday wishes. I had a blast and fortunately lived to tell. (silly snicker). This is a great piece for BOTH men and women. I’m not a male basher, I only bash the ones necessary. Women (in my opinion) tend to be their own worst enemies in relationships and those this points to, need to take note. And for the men, yeah, you need to read up too. For myself, remain single so I don’t have to worry about the majority of this.

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